“My husband lets his daughter’s birthday eclipse Christmas and I hate it”
Woman said she was fed up with her husband celebrating his daughter’s birthday to such an extent that there was no energy left for Christmas, but despite complaints he refused to stop
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A woman has been called “unfair” after accusing her husband of letting his daughter’s birthday eclipse Christmas – because it had fallen two days before and he devoted all of his energy to making it special.
Sharing her story anonymously, the woman said her husband, James, had a daughter from a previous marriage named Ella and that she never agreed with the youngster.
Her birthday was December 23, and every year the husband adored his daughter – often leaving no energy to his wife or their common daughter, Ava.
This year, the man’s daughter wanted to leave for her birthday, so he agreed without asking any questions, but the woman told him it wasn’t fair that he left her alone with his other daughter at Christmas. .
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Speaking to Reddit, the woman said, “Her birthday has always been a priority. It became an issue when Ava was born.
“James had always promised Ella that he would take her to Europe for her 16th birthday, and Ella insisted that it had to be her wedding anniversary.
“He also said crazy things to Ella like a man doesn’t make a big deal on his birthday to throw his ass **, and his birthday is a lot more important than Christmas.
As a result, Ava complains every year that James cares more about Ella’s birthday than Christmas and that she thinks Ella is receiving an unfair amount of money for her.
“I finally got pissed off and asked him if he thought he was spending a lot of money, time and energy on Ella versus Ava, and I said he made Ella and her every Christmas. his birthday.
“He said I was unfair because Ella never left me out of her plans, even though she is rude and doesn’t talk to me either.
“Finally, I told him he was a bad father because one of his children is a grown woman and the other is not.”
After sharing her story online, the woman was inundated with advice from other parents – many of whom said she was wrong to complain.
One said: “I see a lot of things here that really support your husband’s side. You really don’t like Ella and you don’t like the energy he puts into celebrating his birthday. I don’t see where it must necessarily be taken away from Ava.
“Is he also making a big deal for Ava’s birthday?
“Trying to force your husband to ignore or downplay his daughter’s birthday because it’s two days before Christmas and you seem to want him to focus entirely on his daughter with you is not pretty. really doesn’t seem like he’s neglecting Ava here from what you’ve written. “
But another user could understand the woman’s concern and added, “You and James have some weird issues that you all need to get through therapy or something like that.
“It is strange that he is coddling a grown woman, girl or not. You blame your husband’s daughter so much is also strange. Ella is spoiled at best, but that’s not really your concern since ‘she is not your daughter and she is an adult.
“You have to solve your problems with your husband.”
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